If you have abandonment issues and you have faced rejection you tend to do the following things –
- You are a people pleaser
- You overcompensate
- You shrink yourself and put others on a pedestal.
- You don’t give anyone anything real about you and you’re not authentic.
What this means is you’re doing all this to avoid abandonment but indirectly your chances of abandonment are increased. Notice this pattern you will see your relationships with others.
There is nothing wrong with you, but there is something wrong with your coping mechanisms and adaptations because of the fear of abandonment. Ask yourself questions. Limit expectations and belief. Speak up and set boundaries. Own your feelings that come however uncomfortable and see the feedback they give you.