31st August 2021

He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind - Buddha

How to give a true apology

Don't use ‘but’ (“I’m sorry but ……)” using but invalidates the apology. Don’t use ‘if’ (“I’m sorry if …..”) suggests that a hurt may not have happened. Don’t use (“I’m sorry for what happened)”, it evades responsibility. Don’t give too many justifications and explanations. It gets overwhelming. Really listen to the person who has been … Continue reading How to give a true apology

When you’re emotionally numb

You are extra forgetful. You're extremely indecisive. You don’t feel things internally or externally. You find it difficult to cry or feel disappointed. You have conflicting feelings. You will make a decision without putting in much forethought. Have little access to memories and senses. Either you will overreact or you won’t react at all. Feel … Continue reading When you’re emotionally numb

When should you be silent

A meaningful silence is always better than meaningless words. Be silent if your words convey the wrong impression. Be silent if your words could damage a friendship. Be silent if you cannot say it without screaming. Be silent in the heat of anger.

Signs you are emotionally mature

When you are able to forgive people who hurt you. When you take responsibility for your actions, mistakes, emotions, needs, and wants. When you forgive yourself. When you learn to articulate your intentions and feelings to get your point across. When you appreciate healthy criticism.

How to forgive someone who didn’t apologize

Stand in your truth. You know what you went through. You don’t need their admission or validation of what happened. Don’t say it's okay when it’s not. Allow yourself to fully feel the pain of what they did. Their inability to apologise doesn’t mean its okay. You decide that. Don’t keep the door open to … Continue reading How to forgive someone who didn’t apologize