An Update ……. about me

Last month was a whirlwind. Had a bad attack of cervical spondylitis/cervical vertigo. That explains my absence from blogging. For a few years now it was in remission, too much computer phone usage caused the attack. Honestly, it was the universe’s way of asking me to slow down. To enjoy my furry babies, books, workout … Continue reading An Update ……. about me

Signs you grew up feeling lonely – 

Chasing and clinging emotionally to others. Over-talking/oversharing whenever there is someone to talk to. Feeling like you’re the disposable person in the group. Maladaptive daydreaming. Become infatuated with people who show interest in you. Constantly apologising and excessive helpfulness.  Super active imagination. Feeling isolated even if you're around people. Becoming obsessive with friendships. Constantly talking … Continue reading Signs you grew up feeling lonely – 

Reasons why we procrastinate

We are emotionally drained. Adaptive mechanism - Growing up, uncertainty was common, planning/organising often led to disappointment. It’s a way to manage anxiety short term (while creating more long term) We are afraid of finishing a task as it may leave us open to external criticism. The task is not in alignment with internal wants/needs. … Continue reading Reasons why we procrastinate

Why saying sorry is important

Help us move through anger. Give us closure about what happened and why. Help us stop thinking about the past. Be the start of a healing process. Help us cultivate empathy in the relationship. Set the wrongdoer free of shame by taking responsibility. Improve self-respect.

Grounding exercise for Anxiety Attacks

Sit outdoors or face a window and get comfortable. Close your eyes, focus on your breathing until you feel calm. Open your eyes and notice 5 things you can see. Now notice 4 things you can hear. Now notice 3 things you can feel. Now notice 2 things you can smell. Lastly, notice 1 thing … Continue reading Grounding exercise for Anxiety Attacks

Why we go back to toxic people?

As time passes we forget how bad they made us feel. Loneliness. We think they may have changed. We are people-pleasers and don’t feel we deserve something better. We become comfortable and used to their behaviour. @justgirlproject

5 ways to recover from our own mistakes

Don’t deflect the blame, reflect on how you can remove your own negative qualities. Practice humility and ask for forgiveness of those you may have affected. Don’t frantically try to defend yourself. Pray for the strength to resist being pulled back to the past by others and your own mind. Rise above regret and despondency, … Continue reading 5 ways to recover from our own mistakes

How to feel content with your life right now

  Find out what your values are.  Focus on your present state of well-being. Start practising mindfulness. Embrace your curiosity and learn something. Focus on your strengths. Fully savour your positive experiences. 

Happy Father’s Day

Every little girl wants to be adored by her father. We all desire to be loved and supported by the two most important people in life, our parents. For me, I wish I knew what it felt like to be a daddy’s girl. Unfortunately, when I look back at the father-daughter relationship we had, it … Continue reading Happy Father’s Day